|Our Sunflower has emerged! Unfortunately, it's directionally challenged.|
My kids ask me on a regular basis "Mommy, you wanna wash the dishes." I usually smile and say "Yes, I'm going to wash the dishes" (or if I'm feeling snarky I'll say "Well no, I don't want to, but I'm going to anyways since they need to be clean").
After they asked me that question last night and I stood at the sink washing dishes (our dishwasher is my two hands) I was thinking:
It's not about having clean dishes.
|That's not our house it's pointing at. :(|
They don't care what they eat off of. It's about the routine, the schedule, the solid aspect that every night (well, almost) mama is going to do the dishes. It's something they can count on.
When I do laundry it's not about clean clothes. It's a guarantee that every Monday is wash day. They can base their days on it.
They get excited when I clean the bathrooms or vacuum the floor. Not because they care about them being clean, but because mama is just doing what mama does and that gives them comfort.
I love doing my job - bringing a peace and relaxation to the house when Ben gets home and giving my kiddos a state of solidity and dependability . Because it's not about the clean dishes.
Lately I've been pretty exhausted and have found myself sitting and reading most of the time. And they've been a little more chatty, asking me if I want to clean such and such because I think it makes them a bit edgy that the schedule has changed. And mama says no baby, not right now. Mama's very tired.
And they'll have to deal with the change in schedule for a bit longer.
Because we found out Sunday that baby #4 is on the way! :D
And that's why life is not about clean dishes.